Don’t get me wrong, I love my natural hair! I think it has been an amazing journey since 2010 when I got my very last ‘perm’. I couldn’t go through with the ‘big chop’ but I was determined to make it through to being completely natural. I wanted to give my hair a chance to grow and be as healthy as possible. In the professional world, however, I had no idea how my process would be taken.
Luckily, I am a wiz with bobbi pins and pinups so they were my saving grace throughout the transitioning phase at work. When I was hired for the office position, I used a relaxer and of course flat irons to keep my hair straight. At the time, I did not think it was a problem, I didn’t feel like I was trying to be something I wasn’t. In fact, I felt like I was grooming myself for a professional look.
I guess my decision to go natural was a health conscious one that turned into a journey on beauty and self-image. What did I believe was beautiful? What did I think was acceptable? How might I be received? Was I ready for the comments, looks, and remarks for family, friends, and colleagues? My position required me to be the forefront of my company so I knew I would have to deal with the issue head on.
Fortunately for me, I was in an office environment that was non-threatening to my outer appearance and therefore gave me the strength to go out into the world confidently. Not everyone was pleased with my looks but I was taught to have thick skin and care very little for what people thought about me. I got the stares and the comments all the time, and not just from people who did NOT look like me. “What are you doing with your hair these days?” “Why do you look like a cast member for ‘The Color Purple’?” “Are you doing alright? You seemed to have let yourself go!” “Don’t lose your job over your hair!” “What is wrong with wanting to look professional?” “This generation just tries to get away with everything!”
Many of the comments were less hurtful and more interesting. I found myself re-visiting my purpose and looking into natural styles I thought were beautiful, healthy, and manageable for my daily life. In a growing culture of natural beauty, I quickly found sanctuary in Youtube channels, healthy hair curriculum, and Pinterest. Although at the time, not everyone in my circle had caught up to the new fad of loving natural hair, I was immersed in the lifestyle. Most have since caught up and I am in love with my new hair, healthy, long, full and all mine! Now if I can just get over how BIG it can be…some people say its big and gorgeous but I am still working on getting the image of “Shonuff” from ‘The Last Dragon’ out of my head when I look in the mirror! Until then, pinups it will be (I’m still a work in progress)! Next stop: healthy body…a process that is taking much longer than I anticipated… #healthylifestyle #fitmom #naturalhair
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