As moms we often worry about a lot of things:
● our children’s wellbeing
● our children’s safety
● our children’s health
● our children’s development
● our children’s diets
● our children’s education
● our children’s social status
● our children’s feelings
● our children’s success
● our children’s failures
● our children’s needs
● our children’s wants/desires
● our ability to be a great mom and raise respectful, secure, smart, successful, etc. children
● our husband/significant other
● our career
● our health
● our needs
● our desires/passion
And the list goes on and on. But, let me stop us before we become even more overwhelmed than we already are. Often our anxiety and worries are derived from others’ expectations of us or even our unrealistic expectations of ourselves. The only Wonder Woman I know was played by Linda Carter…on TV. (She was my fave, by the way. I had the Underoos and everything. Have I dated myself?!?!?
So, let me help you. Wonder Woman doesn’t exist, so you can let yourself off the hook. Moms, we are HUMAN! We are not machines (and even machines malfunction and breakdown every now and then)! That means we have to give ourselves a break and stop trying to be all things to all people. Decide who and what are most important, then prioritize your life accordingly.
If you need to make some changes, make them. And don’t apologize for it. If you need to downsize your home, so you can afford to have a less demanding job, working less hours, so you can spend more time with your family, then do it. If you need to sell some things, so you can get the extra money you need to pay off some debt, so you can pursue your passion as your career, then do it. If you need to take Junior or Missy out of that extracurricular activity, so you can free up some time, so you’re not stressing yourself out trying to chauffeur everyone all over town, then do it. If you need to sell one of your two (or three) cars, so you can get enough money to pay tuition to get your degree, so you can get a better job to help support your family, then do it.
If you have to stop and get the kids’ fast food tonight because there’s no time to go home between soccer and church, it’s not the end of the world. If the kids have to eat lunch at school instead of having a lunch prepared by you because you overslept, they’ll live. If the kids have to miss practice because you are just too tired to take them, there will be more practices. If the kids miss their bedtime by a few minutes because a game of Go Fish is running long, they’ll be okay.
Sometimes, we just need to enjoy life. Schedules are great and planning is necessary, but tomorrow is not promised, so we need to live TODAY. The bottom line is this: the choice of how you live life is yours. Not your parents’, your siblings’, your family members’, your friends’, your co-workers’, your neighbors’ or the people you don’t even know whose lives seem to be perfect. Trust me, most people are living a lie anyway, trying to impress people they don’t even know. Don’t believe me? Just watch “reality tv”.
Don’t worry, be happy!
Until next time-
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” (Philippians 4:6-8 NIV)
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